How many times have you followed someone on social media and then one day seen them out somewhere and thought “she looks different in real life”?
There’s a big question here as to why we are comparing the REAL person to their Instagram post. Social media is a place that most of us will only share the best bits. That perfect selfie. It may have taken 20 attempts and then it’s always the best one that will be uploaded. We edit, filter and adjust, enhancing to then make it even better because that’s what the apps allow us to do. However, we can’t walk around with a constant filter, best angels and lighting. So, unfortunately girls, we may not always mirror our latest selfie when we are walking to do the shopping. And that’s okay! Beyond the posts, is a raw unedited version of beauty and we need to embrace our own and each other’s?
With the growing pressures of social media and seeing the “perfect” pictures every day, we really do need to make sure that we are working on ourselves away from that. Understanding our differences and that we all have flaws. You are not perfect, but neither is she. My self-love journey has consisted a lot of recognising my flaws and learning to be comfortable with them. And most of all not comparing myself to other people. Being beautiful in your own right, is your own RIGHT and girls, its so much more than 100+ likes.
Instagram themselves are now rolling out their new trial on the number of likes being invisible on a post in 7 different countries; Australia, Brazil, Canada, Ireland, Italy, Japan & New Zealand. But do you think this is a good idea and could help tackle the pressure we may feel? I mean, I would definitely be intrigued to experience this in the UK. I can see how this would make a difference in the way we view things for sure. Let’s face it, the whole Post and Delete thing can be real. Sometimes you may post a picture and it’s not well received by your audience and then you delete. That in itself, sure is enough proof that we are in this for the likes. Or maybe it will just be refreshing to see a picture and not cast any judgement on how many likes it has, giving everyone an equal playing field. However, I remain to believe that we are in control of how we react to the pressures and the way we interpret our social media feeds. Like, if you genuinely think that every day you leave your house you must be living up to societies standards of beauty or you must look Instagram worthy, then there’s a problem.
"Its time to Double Tap into yourself."
Don’t be afraid to double tap on you. Your latest post does not define you no matter how many likes you did or didn’t get. Our beauty is equally measured on how we treat other people and especially women alike. We should be casting less judgement on each other’s appearance and rather, on how we treat each other, how we rise and how we support ourselves and other women. Learning to build confidence together and make us feel good about us in our many forms. We need to realise that we are so much more as women than what is shown on our feeds, I see so many beautiful women as I commute in London every day, going to work and on their grind. When we make eye contact and smile at each other, its more beautiful than any selfie with 100+ likes.
So, next time you see someone in real life who isn’t a reflection of their profile, let it be a reminder that;
⋅ We are human and not a filtered image.
⋅ We all have flaws of some kind.
⋅ Social media is not our everyday reality.
⋅ Our own beauty comes from how we treat and judge others.
⋅ We can all be beautiful in our own right.