Confidence is something that is built and worked on over time...
In fact, it’s something we will constantly have to work on and exercise. For most of us our confidence gauge will range in highs and lows during points in our lives based on how well we think we are doing, looking and developing. It turns into a cycle that changes with what we are doing at certain points.
When we are focusing on our goals and accomplishments our confident levels are high, we tend to have more praise for ourselves and what we are doing during these times. Then the low comes when we focus on our failures, knock backs and bumps in the roads. In these times most of us withdraw from ourselves and our own abilities.
Our low points should really be where confidence is key. Confidence is like a muscle and the more you work on it, the more it will grow. None of us are perfect and neither are our stories but once we learn to have confidence in ourselves during good and more so bad times, our self-doubt and criticism will meet its match and we can begin to thrive.
"Believe in you"
I’m pretty sure that all of us have got through at least one moment in life that we didn't think we had the confidence to. When our confident gage is low and we are not sure how we are going to overcome certain things, but then we do. You must believe in yourself and understand that things happen in life and it’s not always rosy. Try not to dwell and instead tell yourself that “You can get through this”. Believe in the fact that you have overcome other hurdles, remind yourself of them if you have too and make yourself proud that you got through it because you are capable. Believe in yourself and your abilities.
"Confidence has no competition"
Once you stop comparing yourself to others and realise that you are in your own lane, you can build confidence quietly. Self-confidence is all about how you feel about you, not how others do and not how you are doing compared to others. Its selfish but in the best way possible because once you are confident in who you are, you will have more to offer others in the long run. Its about being happy and knowing what you bring to the table. You will find that the bigger your confidence muscle gets the more you become capable of and your limits are lifted.
"You don’t have to be perfect to be confident"
Accepting yourself is the most important part of self-confidence. The good, the bad, your strengths and weaknesses. Spot what they are and maximise the areas you are already good at and work on the areas that need it. Try not to shy away from your weaknesses as these are always bound to pop up at certain points. It’s important to recognise them as a weakness and be okay with it because you’re already working on it or you are not ashamed that this is a weakness of yours. That way people can never use it against you. Be aware of who you are and love yourself, for all the great traits you own.
I am working on my confidence daily, and some days are harder than others, but I’ve come a long way from someone who could be quiet, withdrawn and who did not believe in their own abilities. I would be scared that my own insecurities would be visible to others and shy away in tough times. But this isn’t the case anymore, I’m not afraid to share my ideas and thoughts, knowing how much I do have to offer. I do not measure my successes against others around me and I’ve been through many of tough times to get me here.
My greatest power is, I am the only person that can be me and this gives me so much confidence in my journey.